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EBD150 Loving Your “Difficult” Dog

Loving Your “Difficult” Dog

If your dog is displaying difficult behavior and not cooperating, it may make you feel like your dog is deliberately giving you a hard time. But the truth is, your dog is having a hard time!

When you have these negative thoughts about how your “difficult” dog reacts to you, it leads to trust leaks in your partnership. But there are ways to turn your thinking around and reframe your dog’s behavior so that it doesn’t damage your bond.

We all have the capacity and capability to start unconditionally loving our difficult dogs. This is true even when they are displaying challenging behaviors. In this episode of Enlightened By Dogs, Kathy explains how to reframe “negative thoughts” about your dog’s behavior and how understanding their personality type can help.

In this episode:

  • Why negative thoughts cause trust leaks in your partnership
  • Which misconception leads to frustration and anxieties
  • What negative thoughts are common for each personality type
  • How understanding your dog’s personality can help you reframe your thoughts
  • Some BPA examples of working with different personality types
  • Three journal prompts to help you start reframing

Read the blog post on this topic.


“Our dogs are having a hard time not giving us a hard time.”

“One of the misconceptions we have is that all dogs are alike and that the same training will be effective for all dogs.”

“What we want to do is to shift our perspective with intention and reframe that ‘negative thought’ into a trust and partnership building thought, instead.”

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One Response

  1. Thank you for your advice on understanding my dogs behaviour I have just got my dog spayed 6 days ago she has been difficult with me going out to walk her I have her now 6 months but she is 2 years and 3 months old she was a rescue dog I got from another family she was not walked very much as The adults worked long hours and the 2 teenage children refused to walk her so I got to know Reina during the 6 months and became very fond of her but the lunging and barking and pulling on the leash was extreme at times .I could not give up on her so I thought having her sterlised would maybe calm her down and prevent this behaviour she is getting her stiches out tomorrow Wednesday 30th March so can you possibly advise me what I could expect from her after the healing process how long will it take to see an improvement in her behaviour she is a cocker and Terrier cross and is a nervous dog with sudden noises like lorries birds and cats chaseing she is as good as gold in the house .

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