Enlightened by Dogs Podcast

EBD248: Yes or No? The Framework for Giving Dogs Real-Life Choices Part 2

“I want my dogs to wait at the gate or doorway and to take turns… Why?  Because I want to minimize chaos. I don’t want dogs running into each other, hurting each other, or running into me and hurting me. I want some order, so we are all safe, calm, and happy.” This is Kathy’s example of a real-life scenario when she’s showing the framework for giving her dogs choices.

This episode of Enlightened by Dogs is the continuation of the discussion that Kathy had in Episode 247.

So if you haven’t listened to it yet, you might want to pause this, and go and listen to that episode. Then, come back here for more details and valuable information about the framework for providing your furry friends with real-life choices.

Kathy also shares some prime real-life examples of giving your dogs opportunities to say yes or no, and how to decide when an ask is necessary and when it’s not. She also explains the idea of how this whole chain of events works together so that you can easily use her framework in your own life with your dogs.

This is an exciting episode, so tune in!

In this episode:

  • The real-life choices we give to our dogs
  • Giving your dog an opportunity to say yes or no
  •  The protocol to connect, observe, and decide


“Even though I do want them to know they are responsible for waiting until I say their name to call them through, I don’t ask my dogs to be in a certain relative position around the door or gate, nor do I ask them to assume a specific position of their body like sit/down … They get to choose.”

“Truly understanding the ‘why’ behind your asks, and then asking only when it’s relevant or important is a great way to ease unnecessary pressure that is a side effect of trained and cued obedience.”

“The more opportunities you give your dogs to say no, the more likely they are to say yes when it really matters.”


Become a calm and confident Dog Mom with a cooperative, happy dog … without obedience training, or relying on treats or arousing games, or corrections of any type.

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